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Define Love:

Post by bobissmall1 » Sat Feb 19, 2011 4:25 am

What exactly is Love? I'm not talking strictly about love in an intimate relationship (marriage, dating, whatever) but about how people use love.

I'm just gonna throw this out there:

Love cannot be selfish. It cannot be mean, or self serving in any way, and yet one must love oneself in order to understand how to love other people. Love cannot be prideful, vengeful, or insulting, it cannot be jealous or covetous, nor can it be impatient.

To be truly loving one must put the object of one's love first, ahead of oneself, without seeking one's own good. This does not mean you cannot benefit from loving someone (or something), but simply that this cannot be the goal of love, or it is not love, but selfishness. In my experience selfishness clouds judgment.

Love must be self controlled. If love cannot control itself, what is to keep a "lover" from flying off the handle if they don't like something someone did or said? This would not be an act of malicious anger, but of a lack of self-control, yet I doubt anyone could claim it is loving to lose your temper.

Lastly, I don't think love can be contained by a relationship, or by friendship, or by hatred. If you can't love your enemy, can you really love? And if you love your enemy, are they still your enemy? Therefore, can you have an enemy if you can love perfectly?

Love has no "rights", because rights are selfish. Therefore, what is love? To love perfectly is to be perfect.



Those are just my thoughts.
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Re: What is Love?

Post by sugarstalker » Sat Feb 19, 2011 11:08 pm

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Re: What is Love?

Post by bobissmall1 » Sun Feb 20, 2011 3:39 am

Well, that killed this thread...
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Re: What is Love?

Post by logically » Sun Feb 20, 2011 4:15 am

lol no it didn't
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it's funny.

anywho...

someone once said, "I don't know if I'm falling in love or going crazy!"

to which I answered, "There isn't a difference"

so take that for what you will.
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Re: What is Love?

Post by weedguru_animal » Sun Feb 20, 2011 8:11 am

Love, to me, in its purest form is Charity, Generosity, Forgiveness...essentially; wanting the very best for another, in all circumstances, at all times. If we are talking about Passion and Lust, they are different...connected often, but at least to me, something different to Love.
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Re: What is Love?

Post by Gorecore » Mon Feb 21, 2011 3:53 am

To me, love is being with a person with whom you can share your deepest, darkest feelings and secrets without fear of what they might think or say. They are the person you feel completely at ease with when you are naked and at your most vulnerable.

And this is without the influence of alcohol or drugs. ;)
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Re: What is Love?

Post by AbbyRoad » Mon Feb 21, 2011 4:39 am

what is love?
baby dont hurt me, dont hurt me
no more

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Re: What is Love?

Post by Mate » Mon Feb 21, 2011 6:52 am

AbbyRoad wrote:what is love?
baby dont hurt me, dont hurt me
no more

do do do do do do do do
to be honest - i can't hold singing it everytime i read the topic"s title.
i will add a constructive comment later - i just don't feel like it right now.
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Re: What is Love?

Post by sugarstalker » Mon Feb 21, 2011 9:22 am

sugarstalker wrote:baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more.
AbbyRoad wrote:what is love?
baby dont hurt me, dont hurt me
no more

do do do do do do do do

pfff. too slow!
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Re: What is Love?

Post by bobissmall1 » Mon Feb 21, 2011 1:05 pm

is there a way I can change the title of this thread please? I wasn't thinking, I was high when I wrote it, and forgot that people have a hard time moving past such things while they are on the internet.

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Re: What is Love?

Post by Weedguru_Fire_Inside » Mon Feb 21, 2011 1:52 pm

is it really that big of a deal?
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Re: What is Love?

Post by Mate » Mon Feb 21, 2011 8:06 pm

you're not on the governemental forums of the national security control.. it's useless to despite people because they type things not as intelligent as you would want - as long as there is no harsh comment about other members like in the fuckin reality topic(even coming from the moderators) - it's all good to my eyes..

you need to wait and good answers will come. i'm personally not always feeling like to type a long ass post as i am french, i need to translate everything in my head it takes much more time than anyone else out here and my conectivity to internet is limited..

you also need to remember that on top of everything - it's a weed forum and many people comes on it after... smoking weed. you won't generate more answers related to your topic from people by saying ''i tought people were past these things on the internet'

you've already got 3 good answers from logic, animal and gore and didnt even related.
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Re: What is Love?

Post by wgToonces » Mon Feb 21, 2011 11:25 pm

This is love




Mate wrote:you're not on the governemental forums of the national security control.. it's useless to despite people because they type things not as intelligent as you would want - as long as there is no harsh comment about other members like in the fuckin reality topic(even coming from one moderator) - it's all good to my eyes..

you need to wait and good answers will come. i'm personally not always feeling like to type a long ass post as i am french, i need to translate everything in my head it takes much more time than anyone else out here and my conectivity to internet is limited..

you also need to remember that on top of everything - it's a weed forum and many people comes on it after... smoking weed. you won't generate more answers related to your topic from people by saying ''i tought people were past these things on the internet'

you've already got 3 good answers from logic, animal and gore and didnt even related.

Fixed
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Re: What is Love?

Post by Weedguru_Fire_Inside » Tue Feb 22, 2011 1:48 pm

Hahahaha
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Re: What is Love?

Post by bobissmall1 » Wed Feb 23, 2011 3:25 am

Thanks Mate, idk, I just thought since it was the deeper thoughts section I wouldn't get this stuff, but I think my real mood doesn't come through on the internet. I wasn't that upset about it, only slightly irritated and I was trying to respond in a lighthearted way (though looking back I'm not sure how I thought it would come across that way).

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